Why Match.com sucks…..
Ok…… so I was insane enough to sign up for match.com a few weeks ago, just to see. I mean, come on…. I was curious. Plus the dating scene in the Midwest SUCKS. Ok… and so maybe the three cups of coffee I had just consumed also likely played a role in my signing up during a study break. So I signed up…. yeah I admit it. And here are a few observations I have made…. 1) The Indian boys on match.com that “wink” at Indian girls—- it ain’t the boys. It’s their parents. Winking is free…..Indian parents are cheap…. Put two and two together. So, here’s what I have to say to these parents: if ya really wanna to find a wife for your son on match.com, don’t wink. The smart girls will figure it out, mock your son for not having any social skills, then mock him for needing Mommy and Daddy to find him a wife…. and then move on. Also…. don’t write one sentence e-mails…. those are dead giveaways that he’s not the author…. and the poorly written, grammatically incorrect collection of words further decreases your son’s value on the Indian (or any other) dating market. Trust me….no girl with half a brain will write back. That and the fact that most girls will cross check for them on shaadi.com and find ‘em. They might also mock them for the info they find on shaadi.com. Observation #2: Watch out for the lurking Unabombers. So I once went out with this guy from match.com who I remember thinking ”too cabin in the woods.” Next thing I know…he wants to build…. a cabin in the woods….. in Montana. ’Nuff said about this one. Observation #3: Match.com is set up to FAIL. Anyone that thinks it is gonna work for them is well….. NAIVE. Let’s face it…. if match.com actually worked…then it would be a very unsuccessful business because slowly the demand for it would be lost. The point of match.com is help you FAIL at dating. That’s right Dr. Phil, I figured out your secret!!!!! If you really wanna find your match, save your money and spend it on something more tangible. Observation #4: Another note for you DESI parents: Chances are any Indian girl with a personality you wink at will find you to be their worst nightmare. Think that scene from Bend It Like Beckham, you know the one where a dejected Jess is spinning around with a pot on her head and sees these Indian faces leering at her as she realizes that she’s lost the most important thing in her life and that there is no waking up from her nightmare. And yes…… you really do look that gaudy. Bright red, purple and blue with heavy gold bling wasn’t meant for most people. Think simpler, and classier and consider the use of makeup that more closely matches your skin tone. Observation #5: Advice for you brainy girls out there. Beware of the guys who don’t have goals….. they also lack personalities. And will probably want you to just settle. So if they can’t envision the state of their career….. head for the restroom and climb out the window. It’s way better than lowering your standards. Let the nearest society girl pick them up. That’s all for now……. Actually, no wait…here’s a shameless plea I’d like to send out to my aunts and uncles in India for my upcoming trip here. Please, please, please don’t take me jewelry or clothes shopping. The necklaces are heavy, they hurt to wear, they scar my skin. The earrings don’t fit in my pierced ears. And it is all ugly. Plus I would never be caught dead in any of that stuff, especially after my mom pulled me aside once and told to never wear Indian clothes. Instead, save your money and earn my immense love and gratitude by taking me shopping for music CDs. I’m gonna go attempt to cook dinner now. Wish me luck. J
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You just have to see these as cultural differences. You can’t just tell that this is good and that is bad.
“An American girl stuck in an Indian body”!! Being American is the way of life, it is no where related to body. I can tell few things from these
1. You are a racist (ya, it is in your mind. How will u differentiate a Indian body? just by the color right)
2. You hate India (It is OK, it is your personal choice)
3. You probably don’t have a good body (My guess, 90% hit ratio)
A piece of advice: If you can afford you can change your body so that it looks more American ( I really don’t know what is in your mind when you say American..since they come in all shades and shapes)
Lost Piece: You could be the Indian “Michael Jackson” if you follow my advice
You seem to have a problem with the fact that I don’t like India. Well… why should I? From what I’ve seen, its a society of people who seem to find joy in the misfortunes of others. Given your brainless, one-dimensional response to my comments, my guess is that you’re just like the rest of them. I mean, hey, in your eyes a kid without a dad should be downgraded in society and left out because they don’t have father to pull rank for them, right? ‘Cause that’s exactly what happened to me when I was a kid. I have a reason for thinking Indian people are the most cruel people in the world. You, on the other hand, don’t have much of an argument except for the fact that being indian means that one must be brainlessly loyal to India. Hmm…Not what I learnt in the Ivy League! So yeah, I am going to say whatever I want about Indian people.
FYI, I do have friends who are Indian. But the whole basis for my friendship with these individuals is common interests outside the framework of my race and culture…. How many friends do you have that you can say that about?
>>its a society of people who seem to find joy in the misfortunes of others
I partially agree with that. It is just one way of loking at it. The other way is “survival of the fittest”. The same reason why Indians excel all over the world, regardless to how hostile the places they choose to live in are.
>>I have a reason for thinking Indian people are the most cruel people in the world
The problem with this is overt generalization. Consider other societies like Europe and Australia, They are still a racist. China – The govt. dominates over the individual. US – It values only the american lives. Africa – It is better we won’t discuss it. From your point of view I can tell that the whole world is cruel, Isn’t it?
>>for the fact that being indian means that one must be brainlessly loyal to India
, Isn’t it?
No system is perfect, they have there own loop holes. I agree India, like all other systems has it own imperfections. We still love our mother though she is little messed up
>>How many friends do you have that you can say that about?
I do have friends in China and US. I came recently to US and met a few people in a workshop (salsa). In engineering campus, it is hard to meet any bcoz it is dominated by Indians
>>Given your brainless….
I was wondering why I won’t get any Head aches!
Jeevan,
You’re going a bit overboard with your first response. I read this ivieivy original post the day that she posted it and didn’t detect either ‘racism’ or ‘hatred for India.’ Rather, I merely detect ‘categorization’ and ‘non-preference for Indian things.’ On the former, she was simply using general categories (such as ‘Indian boys’) to describe her basic understanding culled from her dating experiences. And on the latter, she is simply expressing her preferences.
I think you’re injecting a kind of emotion into her original post that wasn’t intended.
Hi Hsieh,
The problem I had is with the title and the generalization like “Indian parents are cheap….” ‘Non preference for Indian things’ is fine since as an individual you can choose whatever you like. Regarding ‘categorization’, I was questioning on what basis it was done.I just wanted to tell that two entirely different cultures can’t be compared and judged that one is entirely better than the other. (ex: In India, most of the people go for arranged marriages and there is almost negligible divorce ratio compared to the western dating/love marriages. But only on this fact I can’t tell other types of marriages are rubbish). If I went little overboard, sorry about that.