Comments on: Why Match.com sucks…..

By: gena

gena — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 02:18:43 +0000

i’m gonna have to back you up 100%. i haven’t tried match.com yet but i guess i won’t be anymore. i’m also a doctor finishing up my step 2 ck. and its almost impossible to date with this hectic schedule. so i totally hear you. my parents signed me up on shaadi.com and i resent them for that..but then it became my entertainment….for obviously the above mentioned reasons by you. maybe we should start up a meeting place for indians who don’t want their parents involved when it comes to lifechanging decisions like marriage….why not start with just dating..and then see where it goes..anyway i gotta get back to studying..goodluck to you..kick some usmle ass..

By: chichick

chichick — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 21:14:19 +0000

So I am an indian girl in the midwest too… indian guys suck in general. forget match. the guys on there have major issues.

Its a waste of time.

I blame indian parents totally for spoiling the boys. Date non indians- that is my advise to you!

By: RobRoy

RobRoy — Wed, 27 May 2009 01:02:13 +0000

So, I have no idea how I found this blog or why I even bothered to read it…I think it’s because I am an American born Indian guy and can kind of relate to some of the things Ivy is saying…

-Indian parents are cheap (but that’s why they aren’t poor later in life)

I don’t agree that Indians derive pleasure from the misfortunes of others though. I think that’s more of a case of, there are 1 billion people in that country…you are bound to run into some assholes just like anywhere else in the world.

Personally, I have found it a challenge growing up here because I was raised in a culturally Indian household, but all of my social life was considered “American”.

I have 1 indian friend, and that’s it. Its not that I don’t like Indian people– I just happened to make friends with whites, hispanics, and others moreso than Indians…

I don’t know what the point of my post is– but Ivy, if you read this: Don’t feel bad or alone…there’s a lot of ABCD’s (american born confused desi’s) in America…and no I didn’t make up that term– some Indians kept calling me that my freshman year of college…

By: AmericanDesi

AmericanDesi — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 02:48:05 +0000

Jeevan,

Dude, you need to lighten up and get a life! And look up sarcasm in the dictionary while you are at it

By: jeevan

jeevan — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 22:16:57 +0000

Hi Hsieh,
The problem I had is with the title and the generalization like “Indian parents are cheap….” ‘Non preference for Indian things’ is fine since as an individual you can choose whatever you like. Regarding ‘categorization’, I was questioning on what basis it was done.I just wanted to tell that two entirely different cultures can’t be compared and judged that one is entirely better than the other. (ex: In India, most of the people go for arranged marriages and there is almost negligible divorce ratio compared to the western dating/love marriages. But only on this fact I can’t tell other types of marriages are rubbish). If I went little overboard, sorry about that.

By: CM Hsieh

CM Hsieh — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 19:21:58 +0000

Jeevan,

You’re going a bit overboard with your first response. I read this ivieivy original post the day that she posted it and didn’t detect either ‘racism’ or ‘hatred for India.’ Rather, I merely detect ‘categorization’ and ‘non-preference for Indian things.’ On the former, she was simply using general categories (such as ‘Indian boys’) to describe her basic understanding culled from her dating experiences. And on the latter, she is simply expressing her preferences.

I think you’re injecting a kind of emotion into her original post that wasn’t intended.

By: jeevan

jeevan — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 16:10:22 +0000

>>its a society of people who seem to find joy in the misfortunes of others
I partially agree with that. It is just one way of loking at it. The other way is “survival of the fittest”. The same reason why Indians excel all over the world, regardless to how hostile the places they choose to live in are.

>>I have a reason for thinking Indian people are the most cruel people in the world
The problem with this is overt generalization. Consider other societies like Europe and Australia, They are still a racist. China – The govt. dominates over the individual. US – It values only the american lives. Africa – It is better we won’t discuss it. From your point of view I can tell that the whole world is cruel, Isn’t it?

>>for the fact that being indian means that one must be brainlessly loyal to India
No system is perfect, they have there own loop holes. I agree India, like all other systems has it own imperfections. We still love our mother though she is little messed up , Isn’t it?

>>How many friends do you have that you can say that about?
I do have friends in China and US. I came recently to US and met a few people in a workshop (salsa). In engineering campus, it is hard to meet any bcoz it is dominated by Indians

>>Given your brainless….
I was wondering why I won’t get any Head aches!

By: ivieivy391564906

ivieivy391564906 — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 00:46:02 +0000

You seem to have a problem with the fact that I don’t like India. Well… why should I? From what I’ve seen, its a society of people who seem to find joy in the misfortunes of others. Given your brainless, one-dimensional response to my comments, my guess is that you’re just like the rest of them. I mean, hey, in your eyes a kid without a dad should be downgraded in society and left out because they don’t have father to pull rank for them, right? ‘Cause that’s exactly what happened to me when I was a kid. I have a reason for thinking Indian people are the most cruel people in the world. You, on the other hand, don’t have much of an argument except for the fact that being indian means that one must be brainlessly loyal to India. Hmm…Not what I learnt in the Ivy League! So yeah, I am going to say whatever I want about Indian people.

FYI, I do have friends who are Indian. But the whole basis for my friendship with these individuals is common interests outside the framework of my race and culture…. How many friends do you have that you can say that about?

By: jeevan

jeevan — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 06:46:35 +0000

You just have to see these as cultural differences. You can’t just tell that this is good and that is bad.
“An American girl stuck in an Indian body”!! Being American is the way of life, it is no where related to body. I can tell few things from these
1. You are a racist (ya, it is in your mind. How will u differentiate a Indian body? just by the color right)
2. You hate India (It is OK, it is your personal choice)
3. You probably don’t have a good body (My guess, 90% hit ratio)
A piece of advice: If you can afford you can change your body so that it looks more American ( I really don’t know what is in your mind when you say American..since they come in all shades and shapes)
Lost Piece: You could be the Indian “Michael Jackson” if you follow my advice